Relationships are either built out of stone, or else built on sand, which later falls beneath the broken hearts in the world, and the pattern continues. When a relationship is built on stone the foundation often stands, since love, trust, honesty, communication and other elements that compose a relationship continues throughout the terms of the commitment. On the other hand, the relationships built on sand lack the elements required to make love grow and the relationships stand.

The love and relationships that intend to love their partner as they would love them self, by respecting the partner are good relationships that last. Bad relationships are built on “You trust me, but I decide if I will trust you.” Selfishness composes bad relationships, since one or both parties are out for gain, rather than to give and share.

Selfishness is an egotism state of mind where the person feels that some owes him/her something. Rarely do they consider what they owe; rather they believe that the world is forever in debt to him or her. When a person feels the world owes them, they often lack consideration, respect, loyalty, faithfulness, and commitment. The egotistic minds often-base relationships with family, friends and mate on what can I get from you. At the onset of a bad relationship, the joining mate with egotistical thinking will lead the mate on, making him or her believe good intentions come with the partner. In other words, the person leads the mate to believe that he or she has the best interest of the partner and of the relationship in mind. Often this type of relationship will move along fast, since the partner with egotistical thinking strives to prevent the other mate from noticing the real intentions.

These types of relationship are built on sexual interest rather than true love. As the relationship progresses the mate believing that good intentions were intended at the beginning often find out when it is too late the relationship is heading down a dead end road, with only one partner working.

Different relationships in the world boil down to good or bad relationships. When two people join in intimate relations, both parties must work hard to make the relationship work. A bad relationship will utilize tools believing that the mechanisms will keep the spice in his or her life when they feel tired out of the mate. In other words, a bad relationship focuses on sexual gratification, which never occurs, since he or she tires out quickly. The person may engage in pornographic reading or viewing, promiscuous relationships, violence, and so forth to gratify the desire.

The love given by these people are superficial love that focuses on gain. Desire is the seated root of their intention and thus, they will lack the elements that make love work. Few egotistical types change over time, while others become more aggressive and seek harder to gratify their desires. The ultimate desire of these people is to please self, while taking what they can get from others and at the same time manipulating others into believing they are good souls.

If you are searching for love and relationships, the World Wide Net, bars, and other unsafe areas are not the place to search. Some people go to Church hoping to find their soul mate, but even churches pose threats, since true worship is un-existing. Thus, when searching for love and relationship take the wise word of caution, and heed to the voices of the past that tell you, love will come when you are least expecting it to arrive. Thus, you do not look for love; rather love will come to you if you allow room for it to arrive.

Loneliness is one of the key tools that land hungry souls in bad relationships. Bad relationships are neglecting, failure directed, and sometimes abusive. If you are in a relationship and your partner is out for self-gain, thus take warning now, since in most instances failure is the path you will walk. Some self-seeking souls may turn violent, or frequently neglect their mate. The partner will disrespect, and place ongoing doubt in the mind of the partner, until a breakdown occurs, and sometimes the breakdown is by emotion.

Be capable of committing one self is required, since love and relationship is built on commitment. Commitment is a promise. Commitment requires the ability to uphold promises made to another individual. The wedding vows at one time committed two in matrimony, thus committing them to love one another through thick and thin, better or worse, sickness and health, and until death ended their love.

When a person commits to another, they are targeting the person’s mentality and emotions when failure occurs, since commitment is a consignment to a disciplinary or mental institution. Thus, joining in marriage or relationships outside of marriage, or even in friendship, commitment is the element that initiates the arrangement.

Once the person’s fall together whether words are crossed, the parties are saying by their actions, “I commit myself to you.” Although friendships differ than marriages or intimate relationships, still a level of commitment exists. Marriages have obvious commitments; however, failures occur when one or the other fails to adhere to their promise to love until death does them apart. Often, disrespect of one or the other, lack of trust and communication will breakdown a relationship, or commitment.

Looking at examples could help you to see failure in different types of relationships and help you to appreciate the elements required to make a relationship work. One example of a surefire failing relationship is visual in the following illustration.

Two join in a relationship. The woman had a disturbing past, consisting of abuse, neglect and degradation. The man has a disturbing background; however, the severity of the woman’s past far succeeds the man. The two share emptiness inside when they meet, with one considering lust and desire while the other is considering love. The woman is beautiful in physical form, thus the man desires her and they join in intimacy. The woman is seeking love, however she finds the man unattractive, yet handy since she feels he can help her escape a nasty relationship in existence. Thus, together they join and later marry since a child is born. The woman disrespects the man since he is obviously an alcoholic, but she fails to see that he also sells and administers drugs. The woman is naïve to drug addicts and seller, thus she continues seeing the man on occasions until the baby is born and finally the two take of residence together.

Finally, marriage is required since the two join a religious group that enforces marriage rather than relationships outside of marriage. The woman thinks, “I will marry this monster,” as she rushes out of her workplace to join her mate in marriage. She stops at the liquor store to pick up a bottle of Vodka and rushes home to dress. The two are marrying at the Justice of Peace, and when she arrives, her mind is in a whirl. The night of their marriage the man is too drunk to join her in their honeymoon, thus she becomes angry and storms out of the room. For the next six months, she ponders on annulment, seeking out advice from her friends. The marriage continues. The woman comes to terms that she will do her up most to make the relationship work. Over time, she develops a natural love for her husband and works effortless to please him and make the relationship last with him abandoning the family and drinking every day. Over time, the woman finds that he is selling drugs, administering drugs and soliciting prostitution. She decides she had enough and applies for a divorce, even when doubt lingers in her mind.

The two finally divorce after the man abuses her for applying for a divorce and over time, the two never see each other again. Now, the man loved her. He loved the way she looked, how she performed in the bedroom and how her behaviors worked to make their marriage stand for more than three years. The woman illustrated patience and long-suffering, however commitment was lacking. Therefore, we see a lack of communication, commitment, long-suffering, respect, thrust, loyalty, faithfulness, and so on, thus the relationship was a surefire failure.

Habits can make or break love and relationships. Habits form over the years, and some habits are good, while others are disturbing. Everyday a person seeks out relationships, but as the day’s progress and standards are lower, frustration becomes the focus of a long journey. As a writer, I communicate with people all over the world. Many of people join chat rooms believing the right person will come their way. Once in the chat room, they soon learn that the Internet is where games are frequently to main goal of the many abroad, thus frustration sets in again.

Sexual transmitted diseases (STD) have put the breaks on love and relationship. Although few continue to join in and out of relationship searching for their soul mate, the breaks are on. Throughout the decades people have spread them self around like germs, participating in sexual relationships with the intent of leaving the person behind. Women at one time were less reluctant to have multiple partners, but as the days, progressed women too joined the bandwagon called promiscuousness.

Some relationships start with one partner believing that the other mate will change over time once love falls into place. People have started relationships with drug addicts, alcoholics, promiscuous persons and so forth, believing that they had the ability to change the person’s habit. As the relationship progresses the mate with intentions of changing the other soon learns that changes are not happening. Thus, intention plays a part in how a relationship works. If the couples are out to change the other, more than likely the relationship will fail.

Intentions are important, since if the best of intentions does not exist, thus harm will be the outcome. Therefore, couples should evaluate their intentions when joining in relationship and love. The couple should also take the time to get to know each other before engaging in sex or commitments. When the two take the time to learn each other’s behavior and habits they can determine if love could develop between the two of them. If the habits are tolerable, thus a relationship is possible, however if the habits are problematic, only trouble will incur, since harmful intentions exist. The person may not feel as though harmful intentions exist, since the habit covers the mind’s ability to think logically.

If the person has alcohol and/or drug problems, an agreement has to take place before the person is capable of delivering a healthy relationship. The person must first admit a problem exists and learn to accept that a disease is controlling the life. Once acceptance is in place, the person must take the steps to recovering from the disease. Throughout the procedure of seeking and getting help, the person must come to terms with self and learn to love self before he/she is capable of giving love to someone else. The person must also have support and try hard to meet the demands of quitting the habit that controls his/her life. The process can take months or years for recovery, however the time is nothing compared to the results the person will experience when alcohol is no longer controlling the life. Thus, the person can then seek out, searching for love and relationship. Still, the relationship sought out should include an individual willing to provide emotional support, since relapse could occur.

At what time you are searching for love and relationship, keeping aware is essential to avoid letdowns. When a person is aware of what he/she is searching for, thus good results often follow. Therefore, we see that a healthy relationship starts when both parties have a sense of who, they are and what they are searching for in love and relationships.

Love and relationships will continue throughout our existence. Habits will also play a part in relationships, thus learning each other’s habits before intimately joining is smart, since you will know if the person is right for you. Sometimes relationships develop and each other learnt the other’s habits, but as the year’s progress, the habits become frustrating. On this note, we must understand effective communication, since obviously there is a breakdown in the relationship.

What is morality? Morality is a “code of conduct” expected by society, or a group, such as a religion. In other words, if you are not behaving like the majority you are ignoring morality. Yet, the question remains, what is morality. Moralities are core viewpoints.

If we continue through life with the expectation placed on us to act like everyone else how can we uphold our own beliefs? The many morality issues today are on the rise. Everyday moral issues arise, including honesty. The majority would rather hear a lie than the truth nowadays.

Moral issues such as conduct, including sexuality, behaviors, stealing, killing, and more is forever changing in viewpoints. Divorce is on the rise and fatherless children have been a moral issue for such a long time as the result. Where our country is heading, and with the expectations placed on us, stammers the moral of individuals every day. As the view of love and relationship changes accordingly, we find our self in chaos and broken homes. The code of conduct left up to those of us that enforce our behaviors, should move toward those of us with strong conscious. When others around us influence us, problems will arise.

We can see few of these problems as today children younger than twelve-years-old are having babies, while the world is growing accustom to this reaction of lowering their standards.

In the early centuries families struggled together, and regardless of the measure of suffering throughout the relationship, rarely did anyone divorce. Unfortunately, in these ages couples were condemned when divorced, even if the person was in an abusive relationship, or adulterous relationship. Few stories of faithful women from of old written in documentations, recorded that these faithful souls stood by their men no matter the struggle of the storm.

Sadly, women throughout the century have shown faithfulness to men, yet men took these women for granted, and would cheat on them, or else view inappropriate material while claiming to love. While I am not striking out at men, but the history has shown us that more women are capable of adhering to the rules of love and morality than most men. Today, we see men and women alike behaving inappropriately while claiming to love one another, and later the inappropriate behaviors escalate to divorce or broken relationships and separation.

Today, women are disposition, as they must work two jobs to help the husband make ends meet. While, the women adhere to the new ways of life, including the liberation of women, couples often find it difficult to survive love and relationship, much less the changes ongoing in society. Children often are on the road of raising them self, or else babysitters take over the raising of the children, including Nintendo, PlayStation, and Television.

Nowadays, children are killing children; open up fire at schools, and acting out on inappropriate behaviors at school, home and in the streets. We have a big problem, yet morality is constantly decreases.

During the preceding years, we all adhered to particular rules that decreased crime and increased love within the family arrangement. Families worked together with dad putting food on the table, mom taking care of the home and children, and the children attending school. At one time when a child acted out in school or at home, the child received discipline, which led to positive results in most instances. The problem was resolved and rarely did the child act out in the same behavior again, unless mental ailments provoked the child. With the new laws preventing parental guidance, we are facing ongoing problems with children, and because of the new family arrangements expected in society, we are now moving toward destruction.

As you can see the level of morality factors into the equation of love and relationships, including marriage, friendship, family, government, children, and society, et cetera. The level of morality we adhere to, determines the direction we are heading. The level also determines if love and relationships will stand through various weathers.

Relationships mean nothing if love is not in existence. When friends, family, marriages, or out of marriage relationships join, love has to exist to make the relationship work productively. Not everyone realizes they, love someone until the person associated has disappeared from their life. The ancient phase “You don’t know what you got until it is gone,” is forever standing in life. Several types of love exist that makes us analyze love and relationship; however, a degree of love is usually available.

Friendship that last for years has a measure of love, otherwise the relationship would end somewhere down the road. Even if the person moves out of the area and rarely visits, love is there, which is noted when smiles appear on faces when the person arrives in town. Long distant love affairs, or up, close and in your face love affairs vary, but love still exists.

Mothers often bond with their children, thus mothers will go to lengths to protect their child from harm. Mothers will also go to lengths to feed their children, even if it includes going below their moral standards and above the law. Mothers have killed for their children, lied, stole, sold their bodies, et cetera all in the name of love. Unfortunately, some types of love are superficial, but still a form of true love exists under the surface, even if it appears nil.

As human beings, we are created and put here on earth to care for and to love one another. Unfortunately, humanity has degraded love to the point many fail to see that it still exists. Evolution theories or the scientist around the world has many believing that they originated from monkeys, but the truth is we as created in human form, were put here to act out of love.

Fathers go to lengths to protect their children also, however the extent of action depends on the mind of the person. Similar to mother’s way of thinking, fathers have murdered, stolen from others, and fought for their children all in the name of love.

Thus, the illustrations present a scenario of how love operates. When two people join in relationships, a different type of love exists. Although, when couples marry they are suppose to leave their mother and father and join their mate, many relationships are run and operated by family members, which over time breaks down the marriage.

When two people join in love and outside forces participate in the marriage arrangement, thus making decisions for the couple, problems occur. One mate may feel frustrated, since nosy friends and family members believe they know better than the couple does, how a relationship is suppose to work. Overtime, one mate may feel that the elements to make the relationship work is non-existing, and may decide that the other mate should continue the relationship with the family members and friend, and feel left out. Therefore, the mate leaves the marriage and another divorce reports on the statistic charts.

Another problem that determines how a relationship stands is the ongoing problem whereas men generalize about women, and women generalize about men. Example, “Women, they are always complaining.” On the other hand, “Men, they all think alike.”

Generalization is a form of stereotyping that has lead to failure in relationships for centuries. Over generalizing creates negative thinking patterns that lead to trouble often. At what time a person starts the negative pattern, the person acts on emotions often and someone is hurt, until the point one is tired and leaves the relationship.

Therefore, love comes in all forms, but to make love work, openness, honesty, trust, positive thinking, faithfulness, loyalty, consideration, hope, and other elements must exist.

When the elements that make up a relationship out of love fail to adhere to the respect that comes in all the ingredients of love, thus failure is a sure result. Relationships mean nothing when love is not accompanying the pair. Regardless of the type of relationship, love must exist to make it work. Untraditional types of love, such as fornication, or promiscuous relationships often construct out of desire, thus love does not exist and the relationship between the self and other parties involved, will not last.