Soul and body-A journey through Life

The soul and body are two internal aspects of your inner world that determine the development of your self. The soul and body have to be in perfect balance in order to achieve self-realization. The soul is representative of your psychological well-being. This includes factors like intelligence, aptitude, creativity and motivation. One should live a life that is up to his or her psychological level. Otherwise, stress and anxiety become an imperative factor affecting the well-being in life. The body is directly proportional to the well being of the soul. A healthy body certainly produces a healthy mind. Longevity is worthless without happiness. Thus, it is necessary to exercise and diet in order to maintain a healthy body.

Your soul and body are the crucial components towards happiness. Happiness is positive living, both in terms of thinking and practicing good habits. Your happiness is actually the indicator of how well your body and soul are blended. If you were ill then certainly you would feel physical discomfort and will not enjoy life for a specific period. However if you undergo immense psychological stress particularly in the break up of a relation then your soul takes more time to heal than your body and you become susceptible to depression and anxiety. Therefore, in these situations where you don’t seem to get out of the depression and anxiety it becomes necessary that you talk things out with your loved ones. The release of emotions is popularly known as catharsis. This release of emotion serves as enlightenment for the soul as the emotion that has been fixated within your psyche has finally gained a release.

Scientific studies suggest that unconscious instincts within our soul play a key role in physical ailments of the body. For example, any troubled relationship with a loved one may result in a headache. This is not just a physical ailment. Since it is related to emotional causes, the headache will remain till the emotion is not released from the soul. Therefore, it is always necessary to maintain a positive and optimistic outlook towards life. Never give up in achieving your goals as each goal that is succeeded proves as a feedback for your self to understand. When you look back at your achievements, you feel a sense of rejuvenation that further acts as factor towards developing your self-esteem.

Just like any voyage or journey that you undertake to explore your surroundings and have a nice time with your friends. So to your body and soul demand similar exploration in order to live a healthy life. Most people who have an increased self-awareness are not very self-conscious. Self-conscious actually makes an individual inhibit his response to the environment. Its only when you have an open flow of thoughts to the external environment that you can perceive things uniquely. Moreover exploring the soul with open-mindedness actually is the true spirit to self-realization that leads to a person achieving nirvana. You can meander your way through your soul by realizing the interests and aptitude that is vested inside you. It is often when you practice your hobbies that you feel connected with your soul. In fact, all your hobbies and interests are just part of the soul. By realizing your hobbies and interests, you have actually explored a hidden area in your unconsciousness. Thus by practicing your hobbies and interests your instinctual creativity is instilled which gives you a sense of happiness.

Therefore, your soul and body are just the inherent space within you that seek exploration. They are the inherent factors towards realizing your true self as a perfect balance between them leads to lasting happiness.

By: Simon Tay, the author of Your Personal Development Website: http://www.simontay.com

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What are our limitations? We have limits that we must set in order to survive in this world of suffering and pain. This means that we have to examine our spatial limits as well as other boundaries that lead us to the growing phase. Throughout this phase, we must develop attentive, selective traits that allow us to place more emphasis on personal development rather than no anything else.

Some of the things that affect our abilities to socialize must also be explored more in depth to reach a comprehensive understanding of social development. Some of the things that affect us are aggression and sexual arousals. While you may wonder what this has to do with socializing, but the fact is aggressive and sexual arousal has a lot to do with the way we socialize. This is because of sexual discriminations, which affect the way one might think. It causes major problems to develop, which plummets one’s ability to conceive others as an equal. You will have a difficult time developing social skills and your personality if you do not correct your misconceptions and the way you perceive others.

Another way to improve your social skills is to recognize body languages. You can advance communication skills while developing social skills when you realize that body movement, gestures, expressions and other silent communication, such as gazes play a part in socialization.

Understanding what attracts one person to another is another great way to advance social skills. When you recognize compatible influences, you will create a healthy relationship that is build on a strong platform. We must also understand why some people follow while others take the lead. Knowing the leaders from the followers will help you make good choices in social relations.

How do groups of people affect our social and personality development?

Good question, but the fact is if you are socializing with the wrong group of people it could change your life forever. For instance, if you decide to join a gang, likely somewhere in your life you will meet the consequences that will change your life for the worst. Association has a lot to do with our development of personality and social skills. This means that we must choose good association in order to develop social skills and our personality. We want to avoid developing criminal behaviors by being in the wrong crowd. Thus, we must also learn to recognize why people behave one way in groups. That is some people will behave differently while in groups and may not act this way on their own. It is evident these people are easily persuaded, which alerts us to see that we should find better association.

How does flattery others benefit you in the social and personality development?

Flattery…we all enjoy flattering talk, however by avoiding being coy or flattering at the right time we can enhance our social skills. Sometimes flattering others will backfire or cause that person to develop bitterness toward you.

As humans, we must learn social skills, such as recognizing when to help others, and how others respond to such help. By recognizing these reactions, one can stay alert and avoid helping people that will continue taking you for granted. It is ok to help others, yet we must realize that teaching people is the ultimate source of help.

If one anticipates engaging with the opposite sex and tends to have an attraction to that person, it is important that our social skills do not offend that potential mate. For instance, if you are one of those people that believe playing difficult to get is the right way to attract the opposite sex, do not feel surprise if the one you may be interested in takes flight. By recognizing body languages, you can learn strategies that are more effective, since you become more familiar with what offend others.

By recognizing gaze, gestures and other body signals, we can tell when other people are lying to us or being sincere. This is an important social skill, we all must develop; otherwise, our fate could turn sour.

By: Simon Tay, the author of Your Personal Development Website: http://www.simontay.com

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Learn to compare success and failure to decide what direction you want to go.

The success and failure that we face in life today can often be traced to the way we have learned to think through situations and look at ourselves. This is based on the initial learning that we went through as children. Researchers have focused attention on private speech in childhood and identified this as a keystone factor in the development of independent individuals that are able to handle the outside world. The connection is there to see that if we do not use private speech or if the use of it is not fostered then we are stuck in a limbo in terms of the development of our thought processes.

If private speech is not fostered then there are two extremes that can occur. One of these is when we are too rigid in our approach to situations and this means that we are not able to make decisions ourselves. Often this is the result of situations where we are accustomed following instructions and not thinking ourselves. This occurs when too many the adults direct us in our lives. The child development is stifled and they are unable to make decisions for themselves. They rely on a rigid structure that they follow and continue onwards in this frame of mind. They are self-controlled but not self-regulated.

The other extreme is where there is no self-control or self-regulation. This is where the individual is uncontrolled and behavior is impulsive and erratic. This results when the environment did not foster the development of control or even independent thought. The child was allowed to act on emotion throughout development stages and this method of thinking has stuck through life. It is seen that the individual is not able to process thoughts rationally and that they are not capable o evaluating situations. They act on their first impulse, which is often not the best reaction in many situations and can make circumstances more difficult.

No one is born with the knowledge of how to behave or act and these are all skills that are formed in the formative years of development. It is more accurate to say that when we are young we are exposed to many experiences that shape our present existence, outlook and approach to life. If these experiences were not the best then we come out of this underdeveloped in certain areas of our lives.

As we become older it becomes harder to change these modes of thinking and often it can take much more effort. If we have children we should be sure to foster an environment where they can develop and use the tools available to them to learn the proper way to handle situations. Foster private speech and in turn independent thinking. Allow children some independence as they grow so that they are prepared for the world without your presence. We have to equip our children with the tools that they need to develop and this means that we need to be able to ensure that we do our parts in fostering their proper development.

Often if we are not in control of our thoughts and processes we are unable to function well in society and we will see ourselves as outcasts to society as well. We have to grasp control of these inner thoughts even if we are adults and focus them in the right direction to achieve our true potential. We will eventually see proper progression through our lives and this will make us overall better persons as well.

By: Simon Tay, the author of Your Personal Development Website: http://www.simontay.com

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Learning to manage your emotions takes skills and practice. By changing the mind to thinking, positive one can work through any situation nearly. We all need management skills one time or another in order to make good decisions to perform our daily tasks.

Thinking positive and learning new management skills is possible by learning a few natural techniques. We cannot depend on unnatural resources to help us to take charge of our life and find self.

Sure, we can ask for help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help from others when we need it, but we must learn to depend on self. We need to control negative thinking and actions to take charge of our life.

Get started by reducing negative actions and thoughts by telling self that you are tired of the way things are being done. Be positive and change by taking control and learning how to manage these negative thoughts and actions.

Whenever you commence to thinking negative thoughts, stop and listen to what they are saying. Next, take a deep breath and talk out loud to self while allowing your inner thoughts to express feelings and emotions. Speak soft and low so it isn’t a shock to your system and just say, “I am weary of listening to this noise and I’m going to think positive. Affirm that you will manage self in the proper way.

It will take awhile to learn how to manage your life. Just stay positive because your brain is already programming from residue in society and life to thinking negative things. We all must reprogram our mind and adapt to ways that make us feel more at ease to live happier and healthier life’s.

You’ve come along way in realizing that you need to learn new management skills with how you think. Now it’s time to use your new learning skills by knowing when and how to use them.

Practice each day on changing your thoughts to be positive by repeating and affirming that you are in control. Don’t expect to see a difference in your attitude or how you handle things right away. It will take time and effort on your part, but you know that you can do it.

Don’t be afraid of making mistakes as you try new things. We all make mistakes but we can learn from the mistakes we make. Making mistakes tells us to rethink our decisions the next time to make it go right.

No one is perfect. So do not expect perfection from you. We all need to learn new skills everyday to keep our brains active and motivated in order to learn new things.

If you want, do some research on positive thinking and self-talk. Just take sometime out for yourself and go to the library or get online. Online or at your local library, you will find many self-help guides that will direct you to the path of discovering you.

Reading will give you more ideas and information on how to make your life change around and move in a positive direction. Learn some tips on practicing yoga, meditation, guided relaxation, subliminal learning and so forth. Each practice will assist you with developing your self-identity for finding self.

Life is too short to continue to push back our emotions and refuse them of expressing self. Take time to learn the benefits of emotional releasing as well. When you release emotions, it will help you take control of your life. Take control today as well by expanding your mind further so that you stay well informed.

By: Simon Tay, the author of Your Personal Development Website: http://www.simontay.com

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Motherhood is a natural process, which many people take for, granted, even the mothers themselves. It is something that happens as a matter of course and part of society. The act that begins motherhood is sometimes referred to as procreation, breeding and reproduction. But motherhood is so much more than giving birth. It is an ongoing process of self-healing and development and destruction. There is nothing more healing and destructive as motherhood. Think about it. Motherhood often fills a void many women feel in their lives. It completes them and fulfills them. Yet it also destroys them. The very process of giving birth is painful and a woman is never the same after a child is born, in the physical, emotional or mental sense. The woman prior to childbirth is a different woman who is now a mother.

Motherhood is a life-changing experience. Aside from the physical changes, a woman who is a mother will view the world differently in relation to her child. Safety and security has new meaning, its value projected outwards. The much-vaunted maternal instinct is a very real characteristic more powerful than the need for survival. A mother has been known to sacrifice herself and everyone else in the protection of her child. However, motherhood can have many adverse effects on the mother and the people around her, including the child. An overprotective mother can act in a destructive way in the misguided belief that she is protecting her child from the vagaries of a dangerous world. A self-absorbed mother can forever damage a child by projecting her own hopes and dreams for that child in a way that can stifle and smother the child and the entire family in a self-serving quest. A negligent mother can produce a child who is emotionally unstable and a danger to society someday. An abusive mother can produce psychopaths and sociopaths.

Motherhood as a way to self healing and development lies in following two principles that will benefit the mother, the child, the family and society. The child is not an extension of the mother. While mothers give birth to a child, there is no inherent ownership that goes with it. A child is a person in its own right, with its own mind, needs, wants and aspirations. It is not acceptable that a mother imposes her own ambitions onto a child, or to expect the child to follow the same path as she had. The role of the mother is to care for and nurture the child enough to keep them healthy and able to forge a path for itself when the time comes.

Mothers have their own lives. Conversely, the mother is not an extension of the child. Many mothers feel that they have to sacrifice everything for the sake of the child. But often, extreme measures are not necessary. The mother who is obsessed with the care for her child will cease to have her own interests and activities. She can become so tied up with the child that she can no longer be a wife to her husband, a friend to others, and a sister to her siblings or a whole person outside her child. This is not healthy for her or for her child. Mothers who are like this are unable to cope when the child dies or grows up and goes away. Mothers must care enough but not too much.

It may sound simplistic, this breakdown of what we call motherhood. However, these two principles remain true for all relationships a person may have. It is just more starkly demonstrative when it comes to motherhood because of the inherent chaos the state induces in terms of physical, emotional and mental balance. It is most necessary that the proper balance and perspective be regained for a healthy and meaningful mother-child relationship to ensue.

By: Simon Tay, the author of Your Personal Development Website: http://www.simontay.com

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